November 17th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
(Damien, My Kids, Parenting Tip, Sergey)
Sergey’s favorite phrase is “I don’t like it”, followed closely by its more base form “No”.
Sergey will say “No” to everything, if given a choice, which is something I am working on removing.
Example Sergey was in the TV room complaining that he had a poopy diaper. When I started to change him Sergey said he wanted to go potty.
Me: Do you want to go potty?
Sergey: No.
Me: Do you want me to change your Diaper?
Sergey: No
This exchange goes on a few times, until Damien chimes in.
Me: Do you want to go potty?
Sergey: No.
Damien: Yes.
Me: Do you want me to change your Diaper?
Sergey: No
Damien: Yes.
Me: Either you need to go potty, OR you need you diaper changed, which do you want?
Sergey: No
Damien: Yes.
Me: I am going to ask you one more time.
Sergey: No
Damien: Yes.
Me: If you say “Yes”, then you are going to go potty, if you say “No” then you are going to get a diaper change.
Damien: Hahahahaha, YES. *I think he figured it out*
Sergey: *with a confused look on his face* No.
Sergey got a diaper change.
I’ll be glad when Sergey grows out of this stage like Damien did.
Parenting Tip: sometimes kids have too many choices.
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November 11th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
(Damien, Mel, My Kids, New, Olya, Parenting Tip, Sergey)
With the recent stress added to my life in addition to having two young boys running amok about the house, and a new baby in the house as well, sometimes I let it get to me more than I should while simply trying to watch a movie to escape for a few minuets, and then the DVD starts acting up during a key sceene.
Fast forward a few days.
We were watching some cartoons that Sergey had picked out, but
Damien was no longer interested in. He first voiced his oppinion by saying “No“, and the wildly popular (at least at our house) “I don’t like it“. With those statements not having the desired affect quietly muttered “Fuck’n Movie“.
At first I was in disbeliefe, so I asked Olya if he just said what I thought he said, and she said “yup“, quickly followed by “That is not one of mine”, topped off with, “you get to drop the kids off at daycare this week, so you can explain it to the teachers“. Can you feel the love?
No to make matters worse Mel was over, sitting right next to Damien. Well with Mel their I couldn’t just beat the crap out of Damien, so I decided to hope he wouldn’t repeat it again. Then Damien said it again “Fuck’n Movie“. I tghink Damien knew he had found a new way to push my buttons, and was trying to see how far he could take it. “Fuck’n Movie” he said again, this time looking right at me.
I don’t even remember saying that, much less Damien being in the room when I was mad, but kids seem to osmoss this stuff when you least suspect it.
Ok so there are things that I do, that I don’t want Damien to do, such as use a chef knife to cut onions, driving a car, starting the lawn mower, and saying certian words, because doing these things is very bad, and could get Damien hurt or in a lot of trouble. I explained all this to Damien it he took it very well, then he turned his attention back to the cartoons, and said “Fuck’n Movie“.
Right, so I am through talking, one of my parenting rules is that talk is only good if you can backup the talk with actoin. So I grab Damien and tell him we are going to a “time out” for saying words he should not. Amazing but for all of Damiens complaints about the cartoon AKA the “Fuck’n Movie” he really did NOT want to be taken away from it to a place where he could only kinda hear it, but not see it.
So we had out little talk again, but this time the shorter version “There are some words that you can not say, and if you say them you will be in trouble and get a time out, do you under stand“? This time I got a nice tearful “Yes Papa“, then we hugged, and he went to watch the rest of the cartoon.
So far so good no more F-bombs at the Finnegan house, but I have lots of timeouts should the need araise.
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November 6th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
(Boss, New, work)
Well my boss came in and said “Remember when you told me that if I let you go to give you six weeks notice?”
He gave me six weeks notice.
It has to do with the Economy slow down, not my performance or attitude.
I can see his point, I am the largest expense that he has that does not help the bottom line, so hopefully he does not have to let anyone else go.
He did say that he would write me a good letter of recomendation, which would help greatly and I am sure he will be a great referance.
CRAP, I just realized that I will have to start wearing a tie, major bummer. 
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November 5th, 2008 at 11:14 pm
(Damien, My Kids, New, Sergey, Xavier, daycare)
Xavier started daycare this week so good so far.
We wanted to make sure that he was bottle trained before we sent him in, since he had never used a bottle, being 100% boob fed.
So ever the organized we waited until Sunday evening before we offered him his first bottle.
Lucky for us he caught on quick and did not complain at all, unlike the other two. I remember that Damien was a multi day struggle to get him to drink from the bottle, I eventually gave up, and Olya disappeared with him into another room for an hour, but came back victorious with an empty bottle in one hand and a satified Damien in the other.
The teachers at daycare, say what a good baby Xavier is, but Olya tells them that he has to be because he’s the third child, it’s a survival mechanisim.
The other two boys are usually well behaved at daycare, Sergey is running off less (at lease for me, Olya syas otherwise). Damien noticed that I didn’t have his backpack when I came to pick him up, he said he would get it, I ended up getting distracted looking for Sergey and taking care of Xavier, when I looked up Damien was gone. He soon turned up walking back from his room at the other end of daycare carrying his backpack (what a little helper).
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